4th October
October 14, 2009
Myself and Brooke the hairdresser and bank telle with the girls (less 1)
It is the end of the first week of school holidays and for the first time this year we have spent the time at home. I still a have a gaping wound in my arm that needs to be dressed at the clinic every second day but the antibiotics have really knocked me around. I feel more debilitated from these than from the illness. I am used to bouncing out of bed at 5.30 am ready to greet the day. I am dragging myself out at 8.00 and have sometimes been back in by 10.00am. I have ordered some medication to help counteract the effects of all the antibiotics. Hopefully this will make me feel better as I still have 25 days of eradication antibiotics to go.
The wound is healing well though. Emma at the clinic is wonderful and training Juliette (who particularly likes the job of ripping off the old plaster) to be her assistant. I must say the healthcare I have received in the Kimberley is absolutely outstanding. Yes, I acknowledge that I have been much sicker up here, but the care is far better than anything I have received before, both at the clinic in Warmun and the hospital in Kununurra.
Everybody in Kununurra is a “blow in” as the town itself was only established in the 1960’s. Almost all the nursing staff at the hospital had been there less than a year. Most were on a journey travelling around Australia. To me this explains why I find Kununurra so friendly, as almost everybody is new to town and there to make the best of their experience. I had great conversations with hospital staff: nurses, tea ladies and cleaners. They all had great stories to tell and I admired their courage. Some had been “superseded” by a younger woman in their marriage and so decided rather than stay around and be miserable, they took off on a great adventure. The nurses off duty even took me off to the movies on my last evening, complete with the canula in my arm as Sampson and Delilah was showing. It was a real privilege to watch this movie under the beautiful Kimberley night sky in the outdoor picture garden. This movie is set in an Indigenous community outside Alice Springs and although we do not have petrol sniffing in our community, the bleakness and marginalization of the main characters was very true to life. I could put easily 10 names to the lead girl from the girls I teach. They lead similarly disorganized and chaotic lives

The girls getting glammed up
At the end of term 3 I took my 4 best students to Kununurra overnight as a reward. Maybe I pushed myself too hard to get everything ready for the girls, maybe it was cultural differences, I am not sure. First of all, the Aboriginal Liason officer at school that was to come with me who is fantastic with the kids had got off the plane at Broome the week before when coming home from Perth and had not returned. The night before we were to leave I was desperately trying to find a community member to accompany us. In the end, I found a 22 year old woman who turned out to be a disappointment.
The girls left excitedly and I had worksheets on Maths to do that looked at distance and time during our journey. We started the stop watch as we left and timed the various legs of our journey and compared these with an ETA. They recorded distances travelled at significant places and calculated the distance remaining. Also as they were in the troopie I threw at them Maths questions relating to units of measurement. They were great at doing these in the car.
The journey to Kununurra is approximately 2 hours and 196 km. In the last 10km I was pulled over by the police twice. It seems they were doing a blitz. The second time I asked them to give me a break! Apparently the Kununurra, Argyle and Wyndham police were all doing extra patrols, but did not converse with each other what roads they were covering. The road from Warmun to Kununurra is the Great Northern Highway (it is also part of Savannah Way which goes all the way from Cooktown to Broome) so here was where the majority of traffic could be found.
We first headed to the supermarket to continue our lessons on measurement. Here we investigated the various units of measurement that were used on products. They completed their worksheets diligently though they had a great sense of shame that so many family members saw them completing their work. We then went to the accommodation which was 2 very nice apartments in Kununurra. As this was a reward I wanted the girls to stay somewhere really nice. In comparison to their homes, it was the Ritz I can tell you! Here they had a quick swim and some games in the pool. I must say it was just lovely to watch them just relax and have fun.
We then went to the bank where the girls were to open a bank account. They had been working to have some money to open an account. It was interesting that the student who was given $80 spending money by her mother, put only $5 in the bank, yet the girl who had absolutely no money available from her carer, wanted to use the $20 to pay for the excursion, leaving her nothing to bank despite her hard work. I decided that the school would pay her excursion fee as she had demonstrated the best work ethic and deserved a chance to get ahead.We take so much for granted. These girls had no examples of savings from their parents and the whole concept of delayed gratification simply does not exist in our community.
They spent an active afternoon in the hotel pool which probably was the problem. They were then very hungry and ate too much afternoon tea despite my warnings about dinner. They all then wanted to have a nap just as the hairdresser was due to arrive. They were excited to get done up but their eyes were really sore from the pool and the girl who looked the most beautiful cried and wanted to go home just as we were about to go to dinner. The hairdresser had come after work and did their hair for free but the welfare mentality kicks in, their is no thanks, just an expectation that all is done for them.
Their eyes were streaming as we went to dinner but for the first 20 minutes they enjoyed using chop sticks and trying new foods. I had ordered a banquet, but after entre they were begging to go home as they were tired. I was so disappointed but must remind myself that to Aboriginal people dinner is just viewed as a necessary body function, similar to going to the bathroom. It just does not have the same cultural significance as it is to us. So we left very early with most of the food uneaten but luckily one of their grandmothers saw them in the restaurant and we were able to give them the food to share with their families who were sitting under the trees. When we got back, one said she was hungry and they came to life and wanted to watch DVDs together. I requested that they just go to sleep as I was disappointed.
The next morning I asked one of them to assist me to prepare breakfast but she ignored me and stayed watching TV. After 5 minutes, I said I was not the maid and so cooked brekky for myself and the lady accompanying us. I left each of them to cook their own. I sat them down after brekky and told them that I was so disappointed, it was not that I expected thanks (no Aboriginal language has the word thankyou or its equivalent), but that their constant complaining had worn me out. I know what their living conditions are and this really was a treat! All day long at school it is the same, never positive just negative.
Maybe they felt shamed and that were not worthy but when we went to the day organised for young aboriginal women on the Thursday it was very telling. By far and away my girls had the lowest self-esteem and were the most damaged. They clung to the back wall, were too shamed to get sandwiches off the table for morning tea and would not talk to any other students. Their heads were down and they were hugely embarassed. Kalumbaru girls are from a far more isolated community than ours, it cost $10000 for them to charter a plane to be able to join in the day. The difference is alcohol!!!. We are in a community awash with alcohol and the kids have the demeanour of those who live with high levels of various trauma in their lives. I felt so sorry for them that they are going to miss out on so many of lifes experiences because of their feelings of unworthiness. It didn’t help that the adult I took kept asking when we couldgo home.
Not one of them said thankyou as I dropped them home (again this can be blamed on their living circumstances) and I wondered if they enjoyed it at all. I spoke to one of their mum’s next day (the girl who asked to go home) and she said she talked from 5-11pm with excitement about her experience. I would never have guessed it. I can only think of what my experience would have been like if I had taken the remainder of the class, who are my difficult students.The girls loved the clothes and felt very dressed up in them. I just feel desperately sorry for them, when your spirit is that crushed or you have absolutely no example of socially appropriate behaviour and so little that is positive, how are you going to participate in life?
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As you can see it, has been simply ages since I blogged. We have been so busy, tired and each of us has been sick at some stage.





















